Newly Engaged? 7 Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make!

Rushing to Social Media

Have a look at our ultimate guide to announcing your engagement before you put pen to paper, or finger to touch-screen.

You can spread the news of your engagement as quickly as you like, just make sure you do it in the proper order. Your immediate family and closest pals will probably feel left out if they hear the news through a Facebook status update or Instagram post. Contact or meet up with your nearest and dearest before you snap you first ring selfie.

Making Premature Plans

It’s easy to make promises and accept offers in the excitement of an engagement announcement, but it’s better in the long run if you don’t tie yourself to anything. We’ve spoken to brides who realised they had to cut back on bridesmaids after they’d already gushed to all of their friends about how they could be in the bridal party. We’ve also steered other couples who accepted help from friends, then realised they’d rather opt for a professional vendor.

Avoid that awkwardness by not committing to anything during the your engagement celebrations. It’s best to thank somebody for their offer and buy some time until you’ve worked out your budget and what you want from the day.

Not Sitting Around Eating Cake

Unless there’s a reason for you to race up the aisle, we recommend starting life as a newly-engaged couple by eating as much cake as you can get your hands on and doing little else. The days after the proposal will be filled with well wishes and excitement. It’s such a special time, one that you don’t want to dampen that by finding out how much wedding flowers cost.

For as many days or weeks as you can, block all practical wedding tasks out of your mind and just enjoy being in your bubble.

Not Basing Your Budget in Reality

When you make moves to start planning your wedding, your first task will be setting your budget. It’s important that this budget has a basis in reality. That sounds like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many couples pull numbers from the air, assuming the costs and forgetting some essentials.

To ensure you don’t leave yourself short, get quotes from some vendors that you like, and take to Google to find out average costs for weddings in your area. When you know how much bang you’ll get for your buck, you can start to create a budget.

Engaging with Negativity

People get very vocal with their opinions when there’s a wedding on their horizon. Smile and nod and the well-meaning comments and settle on a short stock response to the more judgemental ones, then move the conversation on as quickly as possible. Don’t tolerate wedding shaming or try to engage with people who aren’t arguing in good faith. You’ve got better things to do! There are cake flavours to sample!

Newly Engaged? 10 Mistakes You Don't Want to Make!

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Being a Marketer’s Dream

From slogan pyjamas to personalised planning diaries, there’s never been as many things for newly engaged women to buy. We spoke about taking a step back and assessing the worth of wedding planning extras when we wrote about the good and bad of wedding fairs, and that logic applies to all kinds of bridal merchandise.

Put the “Does this ring make me look engaged?” cup down and try to think of the bigger picture. We’re not averse to a few celebratory treats, but we always recommend taking a second look before you part with your cash, especially when it comes to disposable bridal merch.

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Having Magazine Standards

Take it from someone who has seen both sides of the industry: the weddings that you see in big bridal magazines are not real life. The pictures you’re seeing have been picked heap of submissions, which are then edited down to a selection of the very best, most appealing shots. Trying to replicate that standard across your entire wedding is a recipe for heartache.

Take a step back, consider what aspects of the day are most important to you and focus on them. Enjoy Pinterest inspiration, but don’t let it put you under any pressure.


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